Call Me (anything but) Maybe

2013 New Year's Resolution

You must have lived under a rock if you managed to escape Carly Rae Jepsen’s 2012 breakout hit “Call Me Maybe.” This catchy ditty quickly escalated into a pop culture phenom that spawned scores of clever parodies.

Co-written by Jepsen herself, the lyrics tell the story of a coy girl sharing her phone number with a boy she just met and inviting him to call her (maybe). In the throwaway world of pop music, the song struck a collective nerve.

Although I join the bulk of humanity in celebrating the eventual decline of this overplayed anthem, I’m grateful it planted a seed that would become my official 2013 New Year’s resolution.

Ms. Jepsen reminded me just how often I use the word “maybe” to delay or avoid making a decision.

For those of us who struggle with the demon of indecision, “maybe” buys us precious wiggle room to avoid making a wrong choice – whether it involves a simple social event or a pivotal life decision. It’s the polar opposite of a knee-jerk declaration.

I’ve convinced myself it’s wise to consider all possible scenarios and their potential ramifications before putting a stake in the ground. But if I’m being honest, what I’m really trying to do is hone in on the SAFEST option – the one least likely to inconvenience me or lead to eventual regret (or, heaven forbid, public humiliation).

Sometimes, my lack of a definitive decision ends up becoming a decision as various options evaporate. Sure, this can lead to disappointment and missed opportunities, but it also lets me off the hook from having to make a deliberate choice.

And so, at the dawn of 2013, I resolve to banish – or at least curtail – my use of “maybe” (along with its cousins “perhaps,” “possibly” and “we’ll see”).

Instead, I will strive to live more decisively and deliberately.

Will this lead to poor choices that may come back to bite me? Probably.

Strike that.

ABSOLUTELY.

 

 

 

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  • http://twitter.com/BradFeinknopf Brad Feinknopf

    Never live with regret has always been my motto. You have made great strides this year, my friend, by going out on your own. I have little doubt, with your great talents, it will take you very far. 2012 was certainly NOT your year of “maybe” but your year of “what if” and 2013 will be a great one for you! Here is to an AMAZING 2013, full of opportunity and blessings! All the Best, Brad